Your Noble Mind
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Basic approach to supporting ourselves and others.
Noble Philosophy provides a rational and purposeful underpinning for many forms of support: how we show up for ourselves and for others.
Through simple, intentional choices—such as holding space, listening without ego, and acting with humility and care—we activate the Noble Focus within ourselves. From there, support becomes safer, more authentic, and more empowering. And when growth does occur, we learn to recognise it, honour it, and celebrate it—when the time is right.
A good example is provided by considering how we can go about supporting ourselves and others. What I describe here is a method for preparing to support that concentrates on activating our own in-built resources of the Noble Focus within the H I Mind Model.
Hold The Space
Still your own mind and allow the one that you want to support to exist just as they are. RESPECT them. Hold COMPASSION for them. Allow them to be just as they are, while you remain grounded and mainly silent. Cultivate HUMILITY.
Remember, respect, compassion, and humility can start with a choice, a thought, and can be encouraged to grow and be expressed as feelings that will support your overall state of mind. The more you practise, the more effective and resilient your state of mind can become.
Listen at Keyholes
Be prepared to listen deeply and compassionately, listen actively when appropriate, but do not insert your self (your own ego) into their process. Do not collude in their suffering by reinforcing their misconceptions or biases.
Listening at keyholes can also mean using your stillness to encourage your own intuitions to appear. If you are intuitive, make sure that you are careful not to apply your intuitions to strongly. Intuition can be very valuable but it must be used with care. Try to make sure that your intuition is both appropriate and practicable before you apply it to whoever it is that you are supporting. It is important that your support remains truthful and appropriate.
Adopt The Follower State
Metaphorically, ‘The Follower’ walks to the side, and a little behind, the other. This encourages the other to lead yet lets the other become aware that they are NOT ALONE. ‘The Follower’ may be a silent presence, or may chatter, or may even point out the route, as appropriate. ‘The Follower’ must accept the risk of not leading, at least for now.Don’t save, don’t judge, don’t reinforce, don’t lead, don’t collude, don’t assume, don’t distract, don’t run away.
Safety
Any support that you give, beyond just ‘being-there’ should be safe. Don’t try to ‘fix’ anybody, don’t ‘rescue’, don’t ‘correct’, don’t offer inappropriate ‘advice’, and don’t fall into your own belief that you ‘know what is best’!
Celebrate
When the time is right!